tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26495424.post116068209611016482..comments2023-10-10T07:19:27.242-05:00Comments on The Jackson Journey: Thoughts on Motherhoodjoyfuljourneyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00886860163073386990noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26495424.post-1160758175030097892006-10-13T11:49:00.000-05:002006-10-13T11:49:00.000-05:00JJ, For what it's worth to you, I've been there an...JJ, For what it's worth to you, I've been there and done that..spent many guilt-ridden years for not being at home with the girls when I went back to school. Not only did I have feelings of forsaking them, but I felt like I abandoned God due to all the 'busy-ness'. Satan will beat you to death with it!!!<BR/><BR/>Now, that I look back in retrospect, I don't think it would have changed the character or well-being of the girls one bit, for me to have been with them every minute. They were well cared for by their dad. He was teaching when they were in school and took care of them when they were home.<BR/><BR/>The girls learned to be self sufficient and self supporting. I ask myself, "What's wrong with that?", when there are so many 'adult children' still living with mom and day, bleeding them dry financially.<BR/><BR/>I thank God for using those years in preparing all of us for our lives today.Jackiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10340572418529728537noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26495424.post-1160742326072225352006-10-13T07:25:00.000-05:002006-10-13T07:25:00.000-05:00I have no thoughts on motherhood, but apparently I...I have no thoughts on motherhood, but apparently I should get some. This is how to increase traffic.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26495424.post-1160707243075398272006-10-12T21:40:00.000-05:002006-10-12T21:40:00.000-05:00I know what you mean. God has given me a huge res...I know what you mean. God has given me a huge responsibility being a mom. It should never be taken lightly. But, I was a whole person for 30 years before motherhood, and I knew my ministry had nothing to do with that. It doesn't define me. My "ministry" has always been done through my role as "pastor's wife". For some, being married to the pastor has nothing to do with their ministry. For me, it has a whole lot to do with it. During this season of life, He is allowing me to connect to other mothers with young children in my town, but our conversations cover WAY more than kids. My life just can't be all about my kids. I think that's way out of balance. <BR/><BR/>Kacole, your job is answering the phone and dealing with old ladies with crooked boobs, but your ministry goes way beyond that!joyfuljourneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00886860163073386990noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26495424.post-1160702961218501012006-10-12T20:29:00.000-05:002006-10-12T20:29:00.000-05:00I also get kind of tired of hearing how things are...I also get kind of tired of hearing how things are your "ministry". I am sure that being a mom is one of those jobs that get shoved into the "this is your ministry" category. <BR/><BR/>While mommy-ing has bazillions of ministry oportunities AND is a VERY impportant job - it doesn't mean that THAT is what your MINISTRY is (it may just be one of many). Your calling may be teaching, singing, writing or preaching. But just because you are a mother doesn't mean that it will be the only ministry you have - it doesn't define you. <BR/><BR/>Does that make sense? Just because I answer the phone at the church - that isn't my MINISTRY (I can minister through that - but my heart/calling is somewhere else).kacolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05499034945212176527noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26495424.post-1160701573022481922006-10-12T20:06:00.000-05:002006-10-12T20:06:00.000-05:00Oh, my friends and my sister are such blessings! ...Oh, my friends and my sister are such blessings! Beaver, what words of wisdom I so needed to hear! What you said about spending too much time with one group of the family might be what that author was talking about. We CAN make mothering too important! When what we really need to be doing is focusing on HIM, He deserves our time! What an incredible lesson to teach our children!<BR/><BR/>WeevilWoman - you make me LAUGH! I don't know what I'd do in this one-horse (uh...grocery store)town without you! You keep me SANE! I wish Kacole and Beaver could meet you personally. If Kacole would ever come see me, you could meet! You are a wonderful mom and wife! By the way, good use of the word ginormous!<BR/><BR/>Check out my Sept 1st post for the White Rabbit explanation. But here's a warning...if you choose to partipate, you are stuck in the game for life!!! But, you and I could have lots of fun playing! You are just creative, crazy and clever enough to play well!!!!joyfuljourneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00886860163073386990noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26495424.post-1160700118515551492006-10-12T19:41:00.000-05:002006-10-12T19:41:00.000-05:00Well, depending on who you ask, what I have is eit...Well, depending on who you ask, what I have is either considered a sickness or a blessing. As crazy as I may think I am some times, I have the need and ability to do some SERIOUS multi-tasking. So, I do spend time with the kids and with Wendell (and he's beginning to see the difference between being a "volunteer" and a "minister" - a marvelous difference) so it's not like a competition of who gets the most from whom, but that we are doing what God has for us to do. I think selfishness can really come into play and definitely does when too much time is spent on any one group of family members - children or parents. God is the one who deserves the time and we are the ones who are blessed by the time our loved ones spend with God.<BR/><BR/>And the sooner the kids catch onto that, the better! :-)Beaverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15357170173604803035noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26495424.post-1160697674734197702006-10-12T19:01:00.000-05:002006-10-12T19:01:00.000-05:00Hey Beaver,Do you ever feel like you aren't spendi...Hey Beaver,<BR/><BR/>Do you ever feel like you aren't spending enough time with the kids? What about W? <BR/><BR/>I have come to the conclusion that if I were to work, I'd still be a good mom. I know that sounds simple, but what a revelation! Working wouldn't make me a bad mom. If I worked outside the home though, I would no longer read blogs that are mostly about being home with kids full-time. Just like when we chose not to homeschool, I no longer read about homeschooling. It would have caused doubt and regret. I can now discuss homeschooling with those who do because I KNOW that as long as we live here, we will use public school. <BR/><BR/>Anyway, good discussion!joyfuljourneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00886860163073386990noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26495424.post-1160691293699507982006-10-12T17:14:00.000-05:002006-10-12T17:14:00.000-05:00AMEN! I never thought being "called into the musi...AMEN! I never thought being "called into the music ministry" meant being where I am now leading children's music and our arts school, but here I am. And although I may be considered to be "working outside the home" and I have no plans to ever home-school my kids unless something drastic like that has to happen, I am SO where God wants me to be right now. In fact, I would be content to spend the entire time at the church while my kids are at school. (Wendell puts his foot down, though . . .) I know I get paid to be "on staff" at the church, but honestly I'd do it for free. It's the ministry that God has for me right now and it's so exhillerating to be here!Beaverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15357170173604803035noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26495424.post-1160689368251472212006-10-12T16:42:00.000-05:002006-10-12T16:42:00.000-05:00I know some moms that are not stay-at-home-mom-mat...I know some moms that are not stay-at-home-mom-material and I don't feel like they would be the best mom they could be if they HAD to stay home with the kids. (But that doesn't make them bad moms.)<BR/><BR/>I think that like anything else - you just have to go with what God's will for you is.<BR/><BR/>And I think you CAN get lost in the role of being mom. I think it happens very often...causing marriages to suffer, friendships to suffer, etc. I think it is also bad for for the parenting skills of that particular mother. Burn out!!<BR/><BR/>But hey - I'm not a mom.kacolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05499034945212176527noreply@blogger.com